Definition of validating
Validating yourself will help you accept and better understand yourself, which leads to a stronger identity and better skills at managing intense emotions. Notice that mindfulness and self-validation go hand in hand.
Reflecting means observing and describing, components of mindfulness as LInehan defines it.
Self-validation doesn't mean that you believe your thoughts or think your feelings are justified.
There are many times that you will have thoughts that surprise you or that don't reflect your values or what you know is true.
Maybe you are afraid when people argue because in the past arguments led to your being hurt. It’s normal to feel sad, angry, hurt, ashamed, or any other emotion.
Validating yourself by saying, “It’s acceptable and understandable that you are afraid of arguments because when you were young, your parents would hurt each other during arguments." Level 5: Normalizing Sometimes people who have intense emotions don’t see any of their emotional reactions as being normal. At the same time, it’s just as important to validate when others would feel the same way and accept that as well.